We say we’ll be successful and dream-fulfilling and athletic and happy – when we’re thin. Our fat becomes our excuse. We put off our lives until we achieve this magical state. And those who are already thin are still looking for that magic – the magic that supermodels exude from the runways, the magic that cheerleaders and dancers are supposedly showered with. When we look at that belief, we realize its silliness, but it still festers in the back of our minds.
We can achieve our athletic dreams in the body we have now. We can travel, publish our novel, meet our prince charming, dance in public, win a competition in the body we have now. We don’t have to wait to be thinner, tanner, more toned, more exfoliated, more fashionable. Who we are right now is enough.
The Fat-O’-Sphere is a network of blogs, sites, galleries, and people that makes up the Fat Acceptance movement. In its extreme form, it is tumblrs splattered with images of obese women in lingerie, spurning skinny people in an effort to grab equal rights for overweight individuals, but the more sane, educated bunch are about accepting our bodies at whatever weight we already are – freeing us to love and care for ourselves.
The Fat Acceptance movement is about, well, accepting fat. It’s about being realistic about the actual threat of obesity and expecting the same treatment of obese and overweight individuals as their thinner counterparts. Even if you don’t agree with the movement, it is so refreshing to read the words of these Fat-O’-Sphere writers. They are rebels, unafraid of taking up space or declaring their opinions.
It would be difficult to find a movement so contrary to the voices of your eating disorder!
However, as you explore, make sure you remember that sexual desirableness doesn’t make you a woman. What makes you a woman is your love for others, your aliveness of spirit, your gentleness as well as your impertinent rebellions, your strength as well as your sweetness. Your womanness is found in what you do and who you are, not what you look like. You don’t have to prove that you’re sexually appealing to prove that you are valuable. You are already valuable.
Fat Doesn’t Make You Lazy, Mean, Ugly, Jealous, Petty, Self-Loathing, or anything else. Fat makes you fat. Nothing more, nothing less.
Here are the highlights of the Fat-o’-Sphere. Some of these links are currently updated, some of them are not, but they are all worth exploring.
Health at Every Size: Consider signing the pledge!
Blogs and Vlogs
Size Ate: deals specifically eating disorder recovery
Articles and Individual Posts: For & Against
Geez Article Reprinted on “Two Whole Cakes”: Why the World Needs Fat Acceptance
Time Magazine: A Brief History of the Fat-Acceptance Movement